For some, having time alone is a much-needed refresher — a break from your social circle, time to prioritize your needs over your partner’s, and just a space for peace and quiet. But some of us aren’t as good at, or used to, creating space for ourselves. Although it might take some getting used to, spending and enjoying time alone is possible and important.
Whether you’re a recent singleton or just need a moment of self-reflection, we hope you’ll find these tips to be helpful!
Teach yourself to relax
If you’re a busy bee like me, you probably find it hard to take time off from blogging, working, and being social. But affording yourself some R&R is key to maintaining your motivation and bright personality! If you like to stay productive every hour that you’re not sleeping, start by setting aside just 30 minutes to an hour to wind down before bed or at another time that’s convenient for you.
Pick up a book, write an entry in your journal, do a face mask, or watch a movie. Any of these chilled-out activities will prime your body and mind for bedtime. If you’re having a hard time zoning out, try JustCBD or melatonin to mellow out after a long day — both can help you sleep and have stress-relief benefits, too.
Do something nice for yourself
If you’re an empath, it’s pretty likely that you tend to worry about others much more than yourself. Whether you’re putting all your energy into your relationship, your kids, or your work, it’s about time you did something nice for yourself!
Here are a few ideas to help you brighten up your day and enjoy that much-needed alone time:
- Go to the movies solo
- Buy yourself a bouquet
- Have a spa night — face masks, nails, you name it!
- Work up a sweat
- Dinner for one, anyone?
- Book yourself a solo vacation
- Buy a new outfit to impress you and only you!
- Go outside and enjoy nature
- Run your favorite errand
Find a companion
There is nothing wrong with spending your days mostly solo, but it can help to have a companion by your side! And there’s really no better confidante than a dog or cat. These furry friends have been statistically proven to boost your mood, reduce feelings of stress, and make owners more social.
Before you get a dog or cat, here are a few questions to ask yourself:
- Do I have the time and financial resources to care for an animal?
- Am I allowed to have pets in my current living situation?
- Can I rescue a pet rather than shop for one?
- Do I have allergies or other health concerns that might be limiting?
With this information in mind, you’ll be more equipped to make a long-term decision that’s best for you!
Learn a new skill
If you’re not sure how to spend your hours alone, try making them productive by learning a new skill. There’s always something new and exciting to learn, you just have to figure out what piques your interest! Here are some ideas to get the ball rolling.
If you’re interested in professional development, check out SkillShare:
- Website development and coding
- Graphic design
- Public speaking
- Social media management
- Project management
If you want to learn more about the arts:
- Water coloring
- Candle making
If you’re interested in sports:
- Fly fishing
If you want to focus on academics:
Reflect on how you’re feeling
Even as you grow accustomed to spending time alone, you’ll probably experience times of loneliness. This is totally normal! Rather than reject these emotions, consider taking the time to lean into them and delve into why you’re feeling restless when spending time alone. You can meditate on these thoughts, write them in a journal, or consider talking with a therapist about your emotions!
Learning to spend time in your own head isn’t always an easy thing to do, but with these helpful tips, you’ll be well on your way. Did we miss anything? Let us know how you enjoy your alone time in the comment section below.