It can be incredibly challenging to live with someone you desperately love when they don’t have the same lifestyle values that you do. You want to be healthy and fit, but they’re pretty happy with chips and dips in front of the TV. It’s not always easy to live like that, especially when you’re itching to go out for a walk and explore the local parks.
It’s so much easier to focus on your health when you’re single, of course. The only person that you must consider is you. You look after your mental health and your physical health, and everything is peachy. However, when you have a partner, you notice things. You notice when stress has overtaken them and their health habits – or lack thereof – seem to change. You notice when they stop exercising or eating well. You may have even noticed when his libido has plummeted. It makes sense that you would want to get involved and figure out what’s going on – it’s natural. With this in mind, let’s talk about how you can help your partner to do life a little healthier!
- Firstly, ask yourself whether you are expecting too much. Your partner may not be inherently lazy and ignoring his health. He may need help on a deeper level, such as with a mens addiction treatment center if he has been acting erratically. Before you make him your new mission, you need to think about talking to him. He may not have realised that he is acting any differently, or he may not know how to ask for help.
- Next, you need to be respectful. Just because he’s having a few weeks where he is couch-bound and enjoying junk food doesn’t mean that he wants to be badgered into eating well. There’s nothing worse than feeling patronised, and you can approach this in a way where he won’t feel like you’re out to get him. You just have to be careful about it.
- You can speak to your partner about their health without actually talking about their health. You can talk to them about wanting to switch things up in the kitchen, and you’d like their input into new meals that you could be cooking. You could talk to them about a new flask you’ve bought that keeps their water cold through the day, meaning he will find it easier to hydrate. Health doesn’t have to be something you attack about, tread carefully.
- If you have noticed that he is drinking, you are more than within your right to ask what’s going on. However, you should be considerate of their feelings and expect them to argue: anyone addicted to a substance is often defensive. Talk to them gently about your worries about their alcohol consumption so that they don’t feel hounded.
- It may not be easy, but keep the conversation positive. Ask them to go for a walk with you. Bring a Frisbee and play a game of catch. Workouts do not have to be formal at all, not when you can easily have a giggle and run around like a pair of kids having fun!
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Newly middle-aged wife of 1, Mom of 3, Grandma of 2. A professional blogger who has lived in 3 places since losing her home to a house fire in October 2018 with her husband. Becky appreciates being self-employed which has allowed her to work from 'anywhere'. Life is better when you can laugh. As you can tell by her Facebook page where she keeps the humor memes going daily. Becky looks forward to the upcoming new year. It will be fun to see what 2020 holds.