We would all like to believe that becoming a parent is a wholly positive experience and something that makes your life worthwhile. Unfortunately, however, that’s not always the case. While children CAN bring joy to some parents, it is not something that they always do.
Focusing on the darker side of parenting isn’t something that we like to do as a society. But it is essential for a happy and productive future, both for your family and the wider world.
Here, we’re going to look at some of the darker sides of becoming a parent and what you can do to improve your situation.
You Learn Why Parents Lose Their Patients
When your baby is a newborn, you struggle to imagine how you could ever lose patience with your child. As they grow up, however, you begin to see why other parents sometimes fly off the rails. Your darling kid can turn into a monster.
It is important to note, though, that children aren’t trying to wind you up deliberately. Usually, there’s an excellent explanation for their behavior; you just need to know where to look.
Go back to basics. Talk to your child about what is wrong. And try to find win-win solutions to whatever challenge your family faces. It’s okay to lose your patience from time to time, so long as you put work into figuring out what’s going wrong.
You Start Neglecting Your Body
Becoming a parent is such an all-consuming task that you can sometimes lose sight of your health. Preparing food and rushing kids around is so exhausting that you don’t spend as much time making healthy meals or exercising. You may spend no time at all doing these things.
The stress of being a parent is why so many moms and dads wind up attending addiction treatment programs. As the months and years grind on, they look for outlets that make them temporarily happy. Eventually, these feel-good behaviors turn into full-blown addictions, and that’s where problems start.
You Don’t Like Who You Are As A Mother
When people take on a new job role, they can fear that they don’t have the skills to do it properly. They worry that they cannot take on the new responsibility,
This fear isn’t just related to their actual experience or education. It is also something that informs their sense of personal worth. If they can’t do their job, they come to believe that they are a terrible person.
Mothers go through a similar process of adjustment. After the birth of their child, they’re suddenly thrust into a new job role for which they have no training. Inevitably, they wind up making mistakes and then blaming themselves. It can take a terrible toll on their opinion of themselves.
It Doesn’t Seem To Matter How Hard You Try
Ultimately, children are independent beings you can never control. All you can do is nurture and see what happens. Some children will thrive, and others will fail. It is the way of the world.
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Newly middle-aged wife of 1, Mom of 3, Grandma of 2. A professional blogger who has lived in 3 places since losing her home to a house fire in October 2018 with her husband. Becky appreciates being self-employed which has allowed her to work from 'anywhere'. Life is better when you can laugh. As you can tell by her Facebook page where she keeps the humor memes going daily. Becky looks forward to the upcoming new year. It will be fun to see what 2020 holds.